Marriage counseling geared towards saving marriages!
Let’s talk for a minute about marriage counseling…
A lot of marriage counselors take an approach that helping couples to have a good marriage or a good divorce makes no difference–the choice is up to the couple.
We disagree. In our experience, unnecessary divorces leave the individuals continuing to feel unfulfilled and never address the core issues that need healing. That being said, we’re NOT anti-divorce. We’ve helped clients navigate the tough decision to divorce and have had moments where we agree that divorce has been their best choice. However, we are pro-marriage. If you come to our office for marriage counseling, we will work at rebuilding your marriage, learning tools that create connection and healing between partners. We want to help you fight for your marriage and for keeping the commitment you made to your partner.
If you don’t think you’re in a place where you can commit to this goal, we can discuss discernment counseling. Discernment counseling helps couples gain clarity about the future of their relationship, and whether or not they want to begin couples therapy.
We are a part of network called Marriage Counseling Specialists. We’re a group of experts in marriage counseling who believe that marriage is worth the work.
Here’s an excerpt from the Modern Commitment website:
“Our Mission: Getting marriages unstuck.
We believe that, for those who choose marriage, there is no greater personal development opportunity in human life. A healthy marriage is a graduate school of self-knowledge, humility, and growth.
We believe that children thrive best with their parents love each other and live under the same roof (except when it’s dangerous.)
We believe that there are a lot of unnecessary divorces. Many divorced individuals express later regret about not trying harder or exploring more deeply what was possible for their marriage. (Remarriage divorce rates support one of our mottoes: “You can’t divorce yourself.”) Some divorces are necessary to prevent further harm from a toxic marriage, but many divorces are unnecessary.
We believe in commitment as a moral, ethical promise made to someone else–not to be abandoned lightly but only when all alternative solutions to serious marital problems have been exhausted.
And finally, we believe the modern era seduces us with a me-first, happiness-at-all-costs vision of marriage that creates expectations that can’t be met in any marriage–and then misery when we move on in search of an “unreachable star.” “